I had a moving conversation with a family today that had me in absolute tears. My heart is so heavy having connected to this family.
Two young men, 15 and 17, awakened to the sound of a phone ringing, a mobile phone that they shared that their mother had provided for them. They missed the phone call and had to listen to the voicemail. What they heard would be the most tragic thing they ever heard in their lives.
Their father left a message telling them that he had killed their mother and that he was going to kill himself. He wished them a good life, then killing himself.
The children confirmed the death of their mother from their visit to the murder site. It was devastating.
Today, they were able to tell me their story over the phone. I listened as they told me the difficult story of their mother's death. I told them my story. Their uncle listening intently, all the while, giving all of us support.
I was so inspired by their resilience today. They were so strong to discuss the murder today.
I simply wanted to reach out my hand and give them so much support for their loss. If people who murdered only knew how much they were impacting others' lives, they would not kill.
These young men are scarred for life. But, I told them that together we will get through this.
Not to mention, their uncle and aunt also lost a son. He was also killed.
There is so much work to do. It starts now. I encourage you to be strong out there and make sure that you have a plan for leaving your relationship. Safety is the key. Both my mother and these young men's mother did not have the proper tools in order to make a decision to leave.
For a safety plan, go to www.afterthetrauma.com. Mildred Muhammed has a book that you can buy that has a plan in it. I am developing my own book and safety plan as well. It is imperative that we provide others with tools to strengthen and rebuild their lives.
Thanks for your energy and time.
Til next time...