tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37055605317915364402024-03-13T15:25:57.324-04:00Conversation with KellibrewKellibrewhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18036714158800232998noreply@blogger.comBlogger66125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3705560531791536440.post-87803799698894542722011-04-03T22:19:00.004-04:002011-04-03T22:25:38.178-04:00Teens With FearsHello Friends...<br /><br />This young person is either in the 9th or 10th grade and says that their biggest obstacle is, "The government trying to take me away from my family, my home."<br /><br />Young people are struggling in classes, in their school, the community and in their homes. I do not know the reasons behind the fear of this young person, but I do know that trying to concentrate in school when these kinds of feelings are taking place is a certain struggle. It can lead to substantial problems. <br /><br />If you know a teen or young person struggling with peer pressure, suicidal ideation, bullying, depression, grief/loss, relationships, stress/anxiety, substance abuse, alcohol, teen pregnancy or substance abuse, please reach out to the hotline below. <br /><br />1.877.Youthline <br />1.877.968.8454 <br /><br />Til next time...Kellibrewhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18036714158800232998noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3705560531791536440.post-67086004412035087972011-04-02T19:31:00.002-04:002011-04-02T19:43:30.494-04:00Student Tussles With Peer PressureHello Friends... <br /><br />Two young people, both 9th and 10th graders describe their battle with peer pressure below. <br /><br />"My lazyness also the pres[s]ure of not doing my work and hangout with friends instead." <br /><br />"-i try to hard to be like all my friends and make everyone happy. Sometimes I make bad decisions because my friends did even though I dont think its right but after I regret it because I really want to do anything." <br /><br />These two young people are battling deeply with peer pressure and it is what I see as I travel throughout the world. No matter what race, gender, or religion, etc., it is difficult for them to make decisions that are not influenced by their peers. <br /><br />If you know a teen or young person struggling with peer pressure, suicidal ideation, bullying, depression, grief/loss, relationships, stress/anxiety, substance abuse, alcohol, teen pregnancy or substance abuse, please reach out to the hotline below. <br /><br />1.877.Youthline <br />1.877.968.8454 <br /><br />Til next time...Kellibrewhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18036714158800232998noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3705560531791536440.post-9524699812683995222011-03-31T22:20:00.003-04:002011-03-31T22:47:46.715-04:00"My greatest fear is getting kill."Good evening friends... As I promised, here is another index card from my travels. This index card comes from a student in New Orleans. "My greatest fear is getting kill. The people I see everyday are dieing and most of them were in gangs. That's wehre I'm at now and it scares me that I have to watch my back everyday and it scares me even more knowing when it comes down to I might have to pull the trigger." Anonymous Til next time...Kellibrewhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18036714158800232998noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3705560531791536440.post-30342213315855317022011-03-31T00:43:00.003-04:002011-03-31T00:57:04.144-04:00Good evening friends...<div><br /></div><div>I know it's been a while so I wanted to say hello. I just came back from travelling around the country to learn from America's youth. I met thousands of kids from Boston to New Mexico to Louisiana. I learned many things and have many recommendations. Those recommendations will be issued in a report released at some point soon. I will keep you updated. </div><div><br /></div><div>Also, I am starting a series. Everyday, I will send out a message a day from a child on my travels. Or. at least I will try. If I miss a day, I will certainly give you two or three at a time to catch up, lol.</div><div><br /></div><div>So, here we go.</div><div><br /></div><div>I asked children, youth and young adults throughout our country to write on an index card to tell me their obstacles, challenges, biggest problems, their thoughts or simply that they are having a nice day. It didn't matter. This is some of what they said.</div><div><br /></div><div>"My biggest obstacle is to graduate and get through college. I think I only have one person who's holding me back which is my boyfriend. I have a fear of loosing my family like you did. I will keep you in my prayers. As I can see by the way you talk about what happen that you are getting through what has happened I don't know you but you really made me cry and I wish the best For you (smiley face)."</div><div><br /></div><div>Inspiring.</div><div><br /></div><div>Til next time...</div>Kellibrewhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18036714158800232998noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3705560531791536440.post-884617503986807822010-12-03T23:44:00.000-05:002010-12-04T00:14:31.471-05:00Have Some D.C. Council Members Bumped Their Heads?Hey friends...<br /><br />Been some time, but definitely glad to be back. I hope and pray that your Thanksgiving Day was exceptional and you are preparing diligently for the holidays.<br /><br />As we share time with our families and friends during this special holiday season, I am reminded of how difficult it will be for some families and children as they brave the cold weather and harsh conditions of being in the cold this winter, without safety, shelter and food to tide them over. Not to mention the many homeless families affected by domestic violence. <br /><br />And, as if this is bad. Well, there is something that tops this experience. How about arriving to a shelter after you have been put out of your home or left under the cover of darkness with your children and you go to the shelter and try to get in? If you do not have your identification, then you could be turned down. Imagine that? <br /><br />Well, when I was ten and left the home where my mother and brother had just been killed, right before my eyes, I had just the shirt on my back and shorts with no shoes on.<br /><br />We just lost our guardian, my mom. It was 1984, July 2. We lived in Capitol Heights, MD and immediately were displaced. My grandmother eventually was offered an opportunity to live in her sister's house, which she accepted. Like she had a choice. At any rate, my grandmother told me that she applied for funding, some help from the government and they told her that we were not her children or legal guardian, so she was denied. It was a slap in the face for a family who had undergone so much trauma. <br /><br />In the midst of losing a loved one to violence, we had to deal with being displaced and also had to live on my grandmother's one salary. To say the least, it was taxing and difficult for her and us.<br /><br />What if we had to go to a shelter? What if we did not have family to take us in? God forbid we didn't have my grandmother. She was asked by someone on her job if she was going to put us in foster care. <br /><br />I did not experience foster care of living in a shelter as a child, but nonetheless, it was quite difficult.<br /><br />Read this information below. If you disagree with Councilmember Wells and everyone else who is proposing this nonesense, please use your energy to let them know that you do not support this. <br /><br />A life hangs in the balance. Trust me. <br />-----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------<br /><div></div><h1 class="entry-title">Homeless Services Reform Amendment Act of 2010 Will Harm DC Residents, Increase Financial and Administrative Burdens, and is Legally Unsound</h1> <div class="entry-meta"> <span class="meta-prep meta-prep-author">Posted on</span> <a href="http://washingtonlegalclinic.wordpress.com/2010/11/04/homeless-services-reform-amendment-act-of-2010-will-harm-dc-residents-increase-financial-and-administrative-burdens-and-is-legally-unsound/" title="1:21 pm" rel="bookmark"><span class="entry-date">November 4, 2010</span></a> <span class="meta-sep">by</span> <span class="author vcard"><a class="url fn n" href="http://washingtonlegalclinic.wordpress.com/author/washingtonlegalclinic/" title="View all posts by Washington Legal Clinic for the Homeless">Washington Legal Clinic for the Homeless</a></span> </div><!-- .entry-meta --> <p><span style="text-decoration: underline;">Bill 18-1059, the Homeless Services Reform Amendment Act of 2010</span> (<a class="zem_slink" title="Health Resources and Services Administration" rel="homepage" href="http://hrsa.gov/">HSRA</a>), introduced by Council member <a class="zem_slink" title="Tommy Wells" rel="wikipedia" href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tommy_Wells">Tommy Wells</a>, presents a number of serious problems for at-risk District residents (including vulnerable children), for providers of homeless services, and for the DC government itself. The bill puts the lives of DC residents at risk, is administratively and financially cumbersome, and opens the District to potential legal trouble. Additionally, the proposed law would reduce homeless services while increasing cost of administration.</p> <p><strong>What Bill 18-1059 does: </strong></p> <p><strong>• </strong>Requires verification of DC residency<em> before</em> one can access <a class="zem_slink" title="Emergency shelter" rel="wikipedia" href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Emergency_shelter">emergency shelter</a> or almost any other homeless service, including winter shelter, outreach, <a class="zem_slink" title="Housing First" rel="wikipedia" href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Housing_First">Housing First</a>, meal programs and crisis intervention services, and defines residency more narrowly than any other program in DC.</p> <p><strong>• </strong>Attempts to exclude a) those who seek “low barrier” shelter (which does not include any family shelters or “severe weather<a href="http://washingtonlegalclinic.wordpress.com/2010/11/04/homeless-services-reform-amendment-act-of-2010-will-harm-dc-residents-increase-financial-and-administrative-burdens-and-is-legally-unsound/#_ftn1">[1]</a>” shelters), as well as b) applicants to shelter who are victims of “<a class="zem_slink" title="Domestic violence" rel="wikipedia" href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Domestic_violence">domestic abuse</a>, sexual assault, or human trafficking” (but provides no information on how a person would verify such exemption prior to receiving services), from residency requirements during severe weather only.</p> <p><strong>• </strong>Eliminates the longstanding health and safety protections for families with minor children by removing the requirement in the winter that family shelter be “apartment-style.” Removes any limit on the number of families that can be placed together in one room with communal sleeping, eating, and bathroom facilities.</p> <p><strong>Bill 18-1059 is dangerous for DC residents.</strong></p> <ul><li><em>The risks of B18-1059 do not justify the benefits</em>. The anticipated benefit of B18-1059 is the possibility of excluding a small number of non-DC residents from shelters and services in the District by requiring proof of DC residency <em>before</em> one can receive shelter or services. This benefit, however, is far outweighed by the potential risks: leaving the District’s most vulnerable residents—the homeless—out in the cold on hypothermia nights.</li><li><em>B18-1059, by mandating proof of District residency, may disproportionately exclude the most vulnerable DC residents</em>. Many individuals become unexpectedly homeless following an eviction, an apartment fire, or a dangerous domestic situation—these same individuals are likely to lack proof of residency when seeking services.</li><li><em>B18-1059 defines “DC resident” more narrowly than any other District program</em>.<a href="http://washingtonlegalclinic.wordpress.com/2010/11/04/homeless-services-reform-amendment-act-of-2010-will-harm-dc-residents-increase-financial-and-administrative-burdens-and-is-legally-unsound/#_ftn2">[2]</a> Homeless individuals are the most likely DC residents to lack proper documentation. By imposing a residency standard that is more stringent than would be required for other <a class="zem_slink" title="Social work" rel="wikipedia" href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Social_work">social services</a>, DC is certain to deny services to District residents.</li><li><em>B18-1059 denies <a class="zem_slink" title="Emergency service" rel="wikipedia" href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Emergency_service">emergency services</a> to individuals facing imminent danger</em>. Mandating proof of residency for residents seeking hypothermia shelter is akin to requiring ID before administering life-saving medical emergency services.<strong> </strong></li></ul> <p><strong> </strong></p> <p><strong>Bill 18-1059 is administratively burdensome and financially taxing.</strong></p> <ul><li><em>B18-1059 places an unprecedented burden on outreach and shelter workers. </em>Upon implementation of this bill, all employees and volunteers conducting outreach or intake at DC’s <a class="zem_slink" title="Homeless shelter" rel="wikipedia" href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Homeless_shelter">homeless shelters</a> and service providers would have to become experts on verification of residency. Training service providers would require specialized instructions, and many organizations will need new intake procedures, increased staff, and updated technology to comply.<em> </em></li><li><em>Verification of exempt status could be impossible, or in some cases, illegal.</em> Requiring victims of domestic abuse, sexual assault, or human trafficking to announce, and presumably prove, status is not only administratively problematic, but may also constitute a violation of civil rights under local and federal confidentiality and fair housing laws.<a href="http://washingtonlegalclinic.wordpress.com/2010/11/04/homeless-services-reform-amendment-act-of-2010-will-harm-dc-residents-increase-financial-and-administrative-burdens-and-is-legally-unsound/#_ftn3">[3]</a> <em> </em></li><li><em>In a time of budgetary strain, B18-1059 will increase costs while reducing services</em>. Requiring proof of identification will make outreach and intake procedures more cumbersome, thereby reducing the number of individuals served and increasing cost per client. Operational and logistical restructuring required to implement a new residency documentation mandate may also be expensive and inefficient. <em> </em></li></ul> <p><em> </em></p> <p><strong>Bill 18-1059 is legally problematic.</strong></p> <ul><li><em>B18-1059 puts the District at risk of lawsuits</em>. This bill puts the health and safety of DC residents at risk. Any individual unable to access life-saving services because of the bill’s implementation may have a cause of action against the District.</li><li><em>Adverse impact on protected classes may violate civil rights law</em>. The strict verification of residency requirements in this bill will be prohibitive to certain protected classes, including survivors of violence, immigrants, and persons with <a class="zem_slink" title="English as a foreign or second language" rel="wikipedia" href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/English_as_a_foreign_or_second_language">limited English proficiency</a>.</li></ul> <p><strong>Bill 18-1059 will put DC children in winter shelters at increased risk of harm and abuse.</strong></p> <ul><li><em>Communal-style shelters are dangerous and unhealthy for children. </em>Cramming families into spaces with strangers instead of providing them with basic privacy and safety protections puts children at increased risk of abuse by unrelated adults and at increased risk of contracting communicable diseases. The communal environment can also lead to poor school performance and attendance.<strong> </strong></li><li><em>B18-1059 puts families this winter at risk of being placed in small rooms with unlimited numbers of unrelated families.</em> Throughout the last winter, large numbers of families (sometimes as many as 18) were piled on top of one another in one room at DC General, causing great stress to these parents and children. The only way families were able to protect the safety of their children was to assert their right to apartment-style shelter—the same right that this bill would take away. <strong> </strong></li><li><em>Non-apartment style shelter can be lethal for persons with immune-compromised disorders such as HIV/AIDS or lupus.</em> Families shouldn’t be forced to choose between sleeping on the street and risking their health and life in a crowded, communal environment where disease is easily spread.<strong> </strong></li></ul> <ul><li><em>Communal-style shelter is dangerous for victims of domestic violence</em>. Victims would be at risk of living in close proximity to the perpetrator of violence, endangering their safety and the safety of their children.</li></ul> <p><strong> </strong></p> <p><strong>Conclusion</strong>: Bill 18-1059 may have been a well intentioned effort to prioritize scarce resources for DC residents, but the actual effect of the bill will be to divert those scarce life-saving resources from the very residents who need help the most. Any concerns, however minimal, that non-DC residents are taking away resources from DC residents should be resolved in a thoughtful, data-driven manner that brings regional partners to the table. <a class="zem_slink" title="The District" rel="imdb" href="http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0247087/">The District</a> could better serve its homeless neighbors by limiting residency documentation requirements to certain long-term, non-emergency services and by coordinating with surrounding jurisdictions. <em> </em></p> <p><em> </em></p> <p><em>A hearing on this bill will take place on November 8, 2010 at 11:30am, Wilson Building, Room 500. For more information contact Nassim Moshiree at the Washington Legal Clinic for the Homeless, nassim@legalclinic.org</em></p> <div> <hr size="1"> <div> <p><a href="http://washingtonlegalclinic.wordpress.com/2010/11/04/homeless-services-reform-amendment-act-of-2010-will-harm-dc-residents-increase-financial-and-administrative-burdens-and-is-legally-unsound/#_ftnref1">[1]</a> “Severe Weather Shelter” is the same as hypothermia shelter. It is public or private space that the District makes available of the purpose of providing shelter to individuals and families who are homeless and cannot access other shelter during hypothermic weather (when the actual or forecasted temperature falls below 32 degreed Fahrenheit). Often severe weather shelter is located in the same space as “low barrier” shelter for individuals. All shelter for families is either “severe weather” or temporary shelter.</p> </div> <div> <p><a href="http://washingtonlegalclinic.wordpress.com/2010/11/04/homeless-services-reform-amendment-act-of-2010-will-harm-dc-residents-increase-financial-and-administrative-burdens-and-is-legally-unsound/#_ftnref2">[2]</a> See DC ST § 4-205.03 for DC residency as defined by the District of Columbia Public Assistance Act of 1982.</p> </div> <div> <p><a href="http://washingtonlegalclinic.wordpress.com/2010/11/04/homeless-services-reform-amendment-act-of-2010-will-harm-dc-residents-increase-financial-and-administrative-burdens-and-is-legally-unsound/#_ftnref3">[3]</a> DC ST § 14-310; D.C. ST § 7-1201.01(11); 42 U.S.C. § 10601-10604; 42 U.S.C. § 13925(b)(2); 42 U.S.C. § 11375(c)(5); and 42 U.S.C. § 11383(1)(8)(A); DC ST § 14-310; D.C. ST § 7-1201.01(11); 42 U.S.C. § 10601-10604; 42 U.S.C. § 13925(b)(2); 42 U.S.C. § 11375(c)(5); and 42 U.S.C. § 11383(1)(8)(A); DC ST § 2-1402.21; and 42 U.S.C.A § 3604</p></div> </div>Kellibrewhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18036714158800232998noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3705560531791536440.post-84189614972955068392010-10-28T07:43:00.000-04:002010-10-28T08:35:23.061-04:00White House Commemorates DV Awareness Month<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgx948D68IYbcNdh_5-0U_lPoKS9wFiJJQ7NG2mM1qoLJ9uMvvodKuckdMUIVid4Xe7ITZf6-3Vy8wpSfra2gvV-EDKNphVdsLBo4su-MQvzkZZQKwi0bHkXKodDi2FUQcPTAIZdpUxWWr3/s1600/IMG00453-20101027-1326.jpg"><img style="float:left; margin:0 10px 10px 0;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 320px; height: 240px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgx948D68IYbcNdh_5-0U_lPoKS9wFiJJQ7NG2mM1qoLJ9uMvvodKuckdMUIVid4Xe7ITZf6-3Vy8wpSfra2gvV-EDKNphVdsLBo4su-MQvzkZZQKwi0bHkXKodDi2FUQcPTAIZdpUxWWr3/s320/IMG00453-20101027-1326.jpg" border="0" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5533074084980515090" /></a><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhkYhGqA9VBev0P7sT_YDP1AtlaKe0Djfp-AHSbnEw6Uudq24WOnsSrz38YPYcaaIEptXmNcRxRH7GTU-nwb7ApGI_O1tYqSlOWNTArwtKpoZkwX0PKaUgof234uvli1a4kk-ewRY5UzDcO/s1600/IMG00595-20101027-1634.jpg"><img style="float:left; margin:0 10px 10px 0;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 320px; height: 240px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhkYhGqA9VBev0P7sT_YDP1AtlaKe0Djfp-AHSbnEw6Uudq24WOnsSrz38YPYcaaIEptXmNcRxRH7GTU-nwb7ApGI_O1tYqSlOWNTArwtKpoZkwX0PKaUgof234uvli1a4kk-ewRY5UzDcO/s320/IMG00595-20101027-1634.jpg" border="0" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5533073907936296530" /></a><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgMBZf6OEZlHVZ4YlIW2aQkr4Kwe_ZM4yxG8OdZ77WXCOHDf2n3VhYEJZ2qtb-1zCdl_u_QnJeJUu4g_hg3rnMdrK-iGoAMLjxF9sL3s9MamOYllTME-kqz46Wo3oOUgIwyoUxR19YEDbHV/s1600/IMG00434-20101027-1235.jpg"><img style="float:left; margin:0 10px 10px 0;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 320px; height: 240px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgMBZf6OEZlHVZ4YlIW2aQkr4Kwe_ZM4yxG8OdZ77WXCOHDf2n3VhYEJZ2qtb-1zCdl_u_QnJeJUu4g_hg3rnMdrK-iGoAMLjxF9sL3s9MamOYllTME-kqz46Wo3oOUgIwyoUxR19YEDbHV/s320/IMG00434-20101027-1235.jpg" border="0" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5533073395720831954" /></a><br /><b>Hello Friends.</b><div><br /></div><div>I know it's been some time since I've blogged. Things are moving fast, but Ido find it therapeutic to blog -- get my feelings out in the air. But, as always, I am happy to see 17 followers. I always say that one is appreciated because one counts. I am grateful.</div><div><br /></div><div>Yesterday, at the White House, I watched an event unfold. President Obama and Vice President Biden commemorated Domestic Violence Awareness Month. </div><div><br /></div><div>As I sat there, I could not help but think about the countless victims and survivors who struggle everyday with devastation resulting from violence. </div><div><br /></div><div>I also thought about my mother, brother and God-sister Tiffany. I knew I was giving them a voice by sitting there, humbled by the invitation.</div><div><br /></div><div>I sent a letter to the White House this morning stating how thankful I truly was. I remarked that from a bloody room and an empty refrigerator to a room in the White House where victims and survivors were honoured was humbling and signaled hope. </div><div><br /></div><div>The Violence Against Women Act and the Victims of Crime Act wasn't passed until after my mother and brother's death in 1984. Both laws did not do a single thing for us in 1984. We were not compensated as victims and in fact, my grandmother said that she was denied funding because we were not her children. We have come a long way since then. </div><div><br /></div><div>Secretary Donovan (Housing and Urban Development) has a program that would help victims maintain their housing so that the choice to leave or stay for victims is their choice. They are not simply put to the streets. The President also remarked on many other avenues his administration is taking to make it easier for victims.</div><div><br /></div><div>In 1984, we lost everything. I never returned to my house, at least on the inside. All of my toys, my clothes, my bed, simply gone. I was forced to walk away. The last memory I had was watching my mother and brother bleeding on the ground. At ten, that was a difficult moment and to be silent for three years (no therapy) and very little social services, was taxing on our me and my family.</div><div><br /></div><div>Today, I am more hopeful than ever. We are paying more attention to domestic violence. We are paying more attention to sensible gun laws, thanks to the Brady Campaign and Brady Center where sensible gun laws are the order of the day. Thanks to the work of the William Kellibrew Foundation for their tireless efforts to make people aware and educate youth on the issue. </div><div><br /></div><div>We cannot stop here. The road is tough and long and everyday starts anew.</div><div><br /></div><div>I am more than committed to ending violence against women and children and anyone else who is being violated physically, sexually, emotionally, mentally and economically.</div><div><br /></div><div>Please take a stand with me and influence someone else to take a stand.</div><div><br /></div><div>Ask yourself, What am I doing to end violence against women, children and others? Sometimes it just takes a listening ear. </div><div><br /></div><div>The next time you encounter someone, think about their lives. Just consider for one moment. This person could be 1 out of 4 women victimized, beaten, or hurt by their spouse, partner, or loved one. This person could be 1 out of 6 who are sexually assaulted each year in America. </div><div><br /></div><div>Look beyond the exterior. It just takes you caring.</div><div><br /></div><div>To see video from the White House Commemoration event go to</div><div><a href="http://www.whitehouse.gov/photos-and-video/video/2010/10/27/domestic-violence-awareness-month">http://www.whitehouse.gov/photos-and-video/video/2010/10/27/domestic-violence-awareness-month</a></div><div><br /></div><div>You will catch me on the third row, directly behind Secretary of Health Human Services, Kathleen Sebelius, Victor Rivers and Joe Torre, Former Manager of the New York Yankees.</div><div><br /></div><div>To learn more about how you can become a part of pushing for more sensible gun laws that keep people like Marshall Brent Williams, my family's killer, away from guns and how you can help close the Gun Show Loophole visit <b>www.bradycampaign.org.</b> </div><div><br /></div><div>You can also visit www.theWKFoundation.org for more information on the William Kellibrew Foundation.</div><div><br /></div><div>And, if you are in need of help call 1.800.FYI.CALL (National Center for Victims of Crime).</div><div><br /></div><div>In an emergency, please call 911 immediately. </div><div><br /></div><div>These and other acts of reaching out can save a life and possibly save lives.</div><div><br /></div><div>Thank you for your listening ear today and I wish each one of you the best today and beyond.</div><div><br /></div><div>Til next time...</div><div><br /></div><div>William</div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div>Kellibrewhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18036714158800232998noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3705560531791536440.post-38607615566454679252010-03-02T23:46:00.000-05:002010-03-03T00:04:09.524-05:00Update & Great ReadsHello friends!<br /><br />I am so excited to see 15 followers on the <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_0">blogspot</span>. I see we are growing. It's also exciting because I can remember when it was just one member, me, <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_1">lol</span>. I have learned that one person matters though, but I am eternally grateful for each of you tuning in. It's been a while.<br /><br />The past few months have been tough, but today is a new day and a new opportunity. I take it easy and slow, but at a fast pace, <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_2">lol</span>. I wanted this post to be short and sweet.<br /><br />I would like to point you to the William <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_3">Kellibrew</span> Foundation website to learn more about what we are doing to combat violence. Go to <a href="http://www.thewkfoundation.org/">www.theWKFoundation.org</a>.<br /><br />Although, February is over I wanted to post some great resources on Teen Dating Violence. I use the Children's Exposure to Violence survey constantly. You will find the information below astounding, mind-boggling and educational.<br /><br />Take a look!<br /><br />Publications:<br /><br /><a href="http://www.ncjrs.gov/pdffiles1/ojjdp/227744.pdf" target="_blank">Children’s Exposure to Violence: A comprehensive National Survey</a><a href="http://www.ojp.usdoj.gov/nij/journals/261/teen-dating-violence.htm" target="_blank">Teen </a><br /><br /><a href="http://www.ojp.usdoj.gov/nij/journals/261/teen-dating-violence.htm" target="_blank">Dating Violence: A Closer Look at Adolescent Romantic Relationships</a><br /><br /><a href="http://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/pdf/TeenDatingViolence2009-a.pdf" target="_blank">Understanding Teen Dating Violence</a><br /><br />Want more information? Here are some great websites:<br /><br /><a href="http://www.loveisrespect.org/">www.loveisrespect.org</a><br /><br /><a href="http://www.breakthecycle.org/">www.breakthecycle.org</a><br /><br /><a href="http://www.thatsnotcool.com/">www.thatsnotcool.com</a><br /><br />Short and sweet tonight. <br /><br />I promise to blog more. <br /><br />Til next time...Kellibrewhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18036714158800232998noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3705560531791536440.post-11416478818704439692009-12-24T22:43:00.000-05:002009-12-24T23:51:32.494-05:00Holidays - Tough for Victims and SurvivorsHello friends...<br /><br />It's been a while since I last blogged, but it's super great to blog again. <br /><br />We are in the middle of a tough holiday season for many who are victims and survivors of violent crime. <br /><br />I know several individuals who have suffered tragically, some recent and some with distant memories, but to them it seems like yesterday. Events haunt them still today.<br /><br />For me, not having my mother and brother around for the holidays is difficult. Honestly, words cannot describe the loss I feel, but if I had to put it into words for others to understand, I would simply say, I cope with reoccuring thoughts and emotions. While I cannot change what happened, I can change my reaction to it.<br /><br />The holiday season can trigger immense feelings and pressure. Birthdays, anniversary of deaths, wedding anniversaries and other important dates remind us sometimes of the amazing times we shared with our loved ones. These feelings range from depression and sadness to feelings of loss and anger. We also can feel grateful, happy and relieved, but I assure you that it is a roller coaster and not one emotion spared.<br /><br />To cope with my loss during this holiday season, I stood outside today, breathing Edinburgh, Scotland's fresh air while looking out onto Princes Street Gardens, just beneat the Edinburgh Castle. Being in a special place helped me to appreciate the wonderful gift of life. Earlier in the day, I wasn't so happy though. Leading up to my visit to Scotland's museums on Princes Street, I felt sadness and an overwhelming feeling. It felt like I was all alone and quite isolated. I was by myself and with no mobile phone to call anyone. So, I had to rely on my coping ability to kick in. <br /><br />Before kicking in though, I reflected on a time in my life when life wasn't so great. I thought about the times when suicide was the first thought inside my head. I remember how difficult life was then and I knew I did not want to return to that moment in time. Thank God and many family, friends and strangers who helped me get through those tough times because with their help, I got through. Now, my support systems are strong. I get through easier, but times are still difficult. <br /><br />Remarkably, I have learned amazing coping skills to deal with my emotions. I breathe deeply, meditate, keep busy and engaged in many activities that give me great rewards. I read, write, watch movies, think about happy times, travel, talk with friends and go out on the town. These are just some of the things that help me cope. Also, I think about the less fortunate who do not have an opportunity like me to use their coping mechanisms. <br /><br />These individuals can be found on our streets, in abusive homes, at war, held hostage, kidnapped, held against their will, sexually trafficked and other places where their survival is the ultimate challenge. The holiday season for many of these individuals is unbearable. <br /><br />There is a way to deal with the problem of troubling holiday loss and grief though. There is help and there are ways to pump yourself back up.<br /><br />Take a moment to simply breathe. Be in the moment. Breathing relaxes you and slows down your heart rate. Taking things one second or moment at a time puts you in place to be able to deal adequately with the next moment. I believe that we would not exist without the breath and if we value it, we may be able to understand how it helps us. I used the YES course as a way to help me cope with stress and my overwhelming feelings. You can find these courses at <a href="http://www.artofliving.org/">www.artofliving.org</a>. The Art of Living Foundation teaches you how to find the inner peace you desperately search for through controlled breathing. I found my inner peace and I continue to enhance my life by breathing and meditating.<br /><br />If you do not like meditating or breathing, talk to someone else about your issues or write about them privately. Sharing your feelings and issues will release you from feeling isolated. Bounce your feelings off someone you trust, you may find that you are not the only one to be suffering from the holiday 'blues'. <br /><br />Remember, we all need each other to survive. Whether you are a victim, survivor, or know someone who is coping with loss reaching out this holiday season is a must. Save your life or save someone elses. I feel much better since I reached out to my support system.<br /><br />I wish you all a happy holiday season.<br /><br />Til next time...Kellibrewhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18036714158800232998noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3705560531791536440.post-1661437268385623022009-11-18T21:33:00.001-05:002009-11-18T21:33:06.646-05:00Brady Campaign to Prevent Gun Violence<a href=http://shar.es/azDkb>Brady Campaign to Prevent Gun Violence</a><br /><br />Posted using <a href="http://sharethis.com">ShareThis</a>Kellibrewhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18036714158800232998noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3705560531791536440.post-32827114879356104232009-11-05T04:52:00.000-05:002009-11-05T06:40:29.993-05:00Survivor Thoughts Under the Early Morning StarsFriends...<br /><br />I know it has been some time since I last poured my heart out. Lately, I must admit that it has been difficult to write and travel at the same time. But, I woke up this morning with plenty to say. So, I invite you on this brief journey.<br /><br />Over the course of the past month, Domestic Violence Awareness Month, I engaged in dialogue about all of the violence that I have experienced. Many people do not know, but that is pretty hard. Reliving, recanting and sharing my experience of watching my mother and brother die is, to say the least, moving for me inside. For a good portion of the past 25 years, I tried to ignore the fact that it happened. It really wasn't until I had to speak about this incident publicly that I started to truly break the cycle of violence and poverty in my own life. It made me totally accountable to myself and society. For most of my life I perpetuated the cycle of violence and poverty by being ignorant. I wasn't conscious of a lot of the harmful things I was doing. These things hurt me along the way and a lot has to be reversed so that recovery can take place and restoration can return what fairness, dignity and respect was lost. These are the things that victims go through. Today, I am a survivor, but does it hurt? Sure. Sometimes, in my head, I revisit the room where they were killed. It was a horrible sight.<br /><br />When I explain it to people, I see that they are very jolted by the description of what happened in that room. I am surprised sometimes as to what kind of courage it takes to talk about it. Because, sometimes I feel it a bit deeper as I talk about it. The feelings start to rush back and I think about a ten year old suffering at the hands of a killer and a cycle that rips and guts out the victims. Let me tell you what that meant for me.<br /><br />That day, I lost everything, I thought. My life as I knew it ended. Although I begged and pleaded for my life to this man who ended up confusing me terribly by being merciful, I was ripped apart. One of my mentees described that after seeing his mother dead, he was in a zone, a cloud, not here on earth. I guess that's how I felt. I felt like my world had collapsed. It's so strange. As I watched my mother get shot, I thought, I am going to die. I have to prepare myself for this. Maybe it will be quick, I thought. After my mother was shot, her body was limp and non-responsive. The pure and strong leader that used to give me motherly beatings, correct me when I was wrong, yell at me for not doing chores, and the one that I dreamed about taking care of when she got old, just fell right before me and was silent. How was I supposed to go on? Why would I even want to go on? The little kid in me only had less than a minute to answer those questions before the gun was at my head.<br /><br />I know it's hard to actualize. I know it's hard to fathom. For me, it is difficult to imagine this happening to someone and for years I put it on a shelf. In addition to being destroyed that day by my brother and mother's death, I continued to destroy myself. As a ten, eleven and twelve year old I felt pretty bad, but I can say that I was quite resilient. I masked my anger, my sadness, my depression, my hate, my loss, my grief, my feelings and everything that bothered me. No one really knew what was boiling inside of me. I realize with each passing day how devastating an effect this had on me growing up. I realized how much I ignored it. Today, the devastation has manifested itself in my strained relationships with old friends, the way I conduct business, the way I tie my shoes (interesting, have to explain), the way I go to sleep at night and many other ways. What do I mean? These things were all being developed by my mother. She was teaching me and grooming me. That day, it just completely ended. No one would ever touch me the way she touched me again. It's like, the one person who wasn't afraid to hug you and did not judge you based on the way you looked, smelled, acted, etc. She just loved me unconditionally. That's what I felt. Looking back, I realize how devastating it has been. I am still trying to fully restore.<br /><br />When I travel around the country and to different parts of the world to discuss this experience I often wonder if people are really listening and capturing the true devastation of an experience like the one that I experienced? I know that when I hear these stories and look at the news, my heart drops because I know how real it is. When a soldier dies, I get this feeling inside of me that anguishes for their families. When a child loses a loved one, I know how that feels. It is a feeling that no one wants to feel, but it is very distinct. You can't miss it. It sneaks up on you sometimes and it also takes over and doesn't allow you to feel anything else. It's something that you have to be patient with. In due time, it will subside and you will find yourself moving along. But, for some, and this is rare, do not get to move along. They either are lost in a world of their own. Some turn to drugs and alcohol and some simply give up and kill themselves. These things are all things that happen when there is this kind of devastation. And, I wonder if people really hear it and grasp it. It's hard to measure when the audience does not give you feedback or evaluations. Sometimes I am lucky though. I get opportunities to hear others' stories. That's when I know I had a chance to help restore a life.<br /><br />So, this month, I have dedicated at least a week to continue to write my book. I will leave away to Boston, MA to finish what I started years ago. When I was fifteen or sixteen, I started writing my book in the dining room of my grandmother's house. I knew this was something that she could not possibly read when I started it, but I knew there would be a day when I could write about these things without fear that it was too much for her. She often exclaimed that she did not want me to talk about it in public. She did not want to be surprised on the news or anywhere else as it related to the death of her daughter. But, now is the time. 25 years later and I feel a sense of absolute relief. I have the support of my family, friends and the public to once again, put pen to paper or at least finger to key to complete this project. I will not say that it is long overdue, but I will say that it is right on time and waiting any longer is unacceptable.<br /><br />This book is about getting my story out of me. It has held me back for so long and I need to air what has been going on inside of me. It will be an honor for others to read it and support it once it is written, but writing it will finally help me come to grips with everything that has transpired. I warn you, I am not sparing graphics. I want to finally tell what happened in its entirety. I want to disclose the deepest and darkest secrets that still haunt me today. They are tragic, they have been life-changing. For years, I have held on to abuse, pain, hurt, misery and isolation because I thought that many would not care about my experience or story. So, it is time to write. It is time to put these stories down and be honest about what has held me back through the years and what has propelled me forward. <br /><br />I also find that this book will be a tool for so many out there who were ignorant like me. Of course, I still do not know everything, but I want to learn. I am open to the possibilities. There are some of our fellow human beings who are not in that position. I met them. I talked to them. I interact with them sometimes daily. They are ignorant of inspiration, motivation, determination -- hope. They are trying to find it everywhere and they find themselves fighting a losing battle. Well, I want to leave them with a gift. This book will explain my escape or should I say, release, from near death. It will explain how I almost was killed to how I wanted to kill myself to actually simply being self-destructive. It will journey tthrough my world of narcissism and guilt. You will journey to some places with me that will have you asking whether or not you should travel with me. It is going to be hard. It is hard to write. Just recently, about a month or so ago, I was rereading the first chapter and I had to stop. I put the book down and just caught the tears streaming down my face with the palms of my hands. I had to find anything that would catch the downpour of everything that summed me up that day. I thought about me being ten and having to watch my own mother and brother get shot in their faces. It was demeaning. It was demoralizing. And for one moment, I collapsed. It was simply devastating once again. <br /><br />Hey, things may change, but we are human. We have emotions. I will never forget this. The killer made sure of that. I know he had intentions on killing me. But, in a human's soul when he or she is ruthless, is an area with compassion. I had to learn this. I had to find that compassion in me. After it happened, I was angry. I was humiliated. I was embarrassed. I lied about it in school. I did not want people to know that I lost my mom and brother that way. I saw parents picking their children up from school. I saw how loving mothers were and I could not express how much I wanted to feel that love too. It didn't help that I was totally sensitive. I could cry on the drop of a dime when my mother was alive. She could yell at me and I would melt. So, just imagine her getting killed in front of me. I not only cried for years, but today, I still cry. I still feel that pain, but I have tools now that help me to cope. I have tools that help me to get through these tough times. Part of the coping mechanism is to be productive. For instance, I got up and started to write this blog. That helped me this morning because I felt a little sad this morning. I felt that void that is there for my moms. I miss her.<br /><br />I was asked by a student in Fitchburg High School in Fitchburg, MA, just outside of Boston, "Would you go back and change it if you had a chance?" I didn't want to say to the teen, "Yes." because I have accepted their deaths. I have come to terms with their deaths. I am proud to be coping, finally. I am happy standing up for myself now. I am happy about making a difference in someone else's life. I did not have any idea how much people were hurting. The hurt and pain from these tragedies are immense. Of course I would give anything to just touch my mom again. But, I know that is wishful thinking and I have to put it in perspective and move forward to live as if she was still here. I have to do the things that she pushed me to do. However, my answer was definitely YES as a lost teen and younger adult. That was when I lived in the past. I tried to stay in my childhood. I did't want to grow up. Now, I am excited about the next day. Things have changed. But, what about the other abuse? It was compiled. It was compounding.<br /><br />Being violently raped at six taught me a huge lesson and many other memorable ones. The huge lesson was that if something happens to you and you feel uncomfortable and oppressed, say something to somebody and quick. I held my rape in until I was fourteen, but by then, I had already exploded. But, at thirteen, I ended up with a black eye and in a mental institution for my behaviour. I finally lost control and ended up fighting my great aunt because she hit me in my face for cursing. Luckily, I saw the Color Purple, the movie and I watched as Oprah's character stood up for herself. I hadn't stood up for myself. I had been opressed since my mother died. That's what I felt like. My childhood was riddled with abuse. It was so ingrained in me. I was so scared growing up. But, no one ever knew. However, as I mentioned, at fourteen I finally broke the silence. My grandmother was devastated. She could not hear the news. To me, I felt good dropping the bomb shell. I am so glad I did. It was a relief. I would go on to tell about the other sexual abuse too. That is being saved for the book though. You would be amazed and disgusted all at the same time. I am eager to tell you. Most importantly, I am eager to tell you what I did to continually destroy myself and then tell you how I turned things around. <br /><br />I want to leave you with a few words of experience. Some people can be so heinous in their actions. I know, because I was once one of those people. I was so upset and angry with the man who killed my mother and brother that I wanted people like him to die or either rot in prison. I often thought about killing. I often thought of killing myself. I was able to work these things out in therapy. When the doctors told me that if I was a threat to myself or others they would keep me longer in the hospital. So, I had to work on my attitude. We have to break this cycle of violence by impressing upon each other the importance of peace and the gift of love. People have become hardened because things have been hard. Look at the conditions of this country. Look at how exploited all of our stories are and then the folks that exploit them hardly use the story to help others. This does not pertain to everyone, but there are those folks who will use you for their gain. I have to be careful everyday not to do this, but when there is a cycle of violence and poverty that permeates your culture and your training, it is difficult. So, simply telling your story by writing it out for yourself is the key. That's when you can own up to the truth about what holds you back, what moves you forward.<br /><br />This is probably my longest post, but I felt the need to get these things out. I am not perfect, will never be and do not plan on being. I make mistakes today, have made them yesterday and will make them tomorrow. I look forward to some mistakes because they teach me good lessons on how not to repeat them. My heart was heavy this morning and now, I feel much better. <br /><br />Thanks to my eleven followers. I remember when I had just one follower. Thanks for joining.<br /><br />Let's work on restoration for those who have difficulty in restoring their own lives. Start with you. I will start with me.<br /><br />Til next time...Kellibrewhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18036714158800232998noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3705560531791536440.post-88223893659073064192009-10-27T17:04:00.000-04:002009-10-27T17:09:57.467-04:00Kellibrew Addresses Mississippi Teens<strong>Domestic violence survivors to address rural Mississippi teens<br /></strong><br />October 26, 2009 Lexington, Mississippi<br /><a href="http://www.ireport.com/people/HelpMeetLLC1"></a>Posted by:<a class="ir-username-link " title="Click to view HelpMeetLLC1's profile" href="http://www.ireport.com/people/HelpMeetLLC1">HelpMeetLLC1</a><br /><br />CNN producer note<br /><strong>iReport —</strong><br /><br /><strong>ARISE, take charge and prevent domestic violence!</strong><br /><br />LEXINGTON, Miss. -- According to a Bureau of Justice Special Report: “Intimate Partner Violence,” 40 percent of teenage girls ages 14 to 17 say they know someone their age who has been hit or beaten by a boyfriend.<br /><br />The ARISE (Assistance for Rural, Intervention, Strategies and Empowerment) Project is working hard to prevent such occurrences. In observance of October as Domestic Violence Awareness Month, ARISE will present a Domestic Violence/Abuse Prevention Forum, Tonight, Oct. 26, at 6 p.m., in the Community Students Learning Center building, 333 Yazoo Street, Lexington, Miss.<br /><br />The program will feature William C. Kellibrew IV of the William Kellibrew Foundation, Washington, D.C., and Mississippi Author and Evangelist Voncele Savage of Canton, Miss. Although from different areas of the nation, both Kellibrew and Savage share a common bond: they survived the horrors of being victims of domestic violence and abuse!<br /><br />Featured on national television, Kellibrew shared the horrific experience of seeing his mother fatally shot in the face and his 12-year-old brother shot in the head by his mother's ex-boyfriend. He was only 10 at the time, living in a poor, crime-ridden area near Washington, D.C.<br /><br />A survivor of domestic violence, he uses his experiences to talk to teens and others throughout the country about domestic violence and to advocate for the protection of women and children. He is currently a political science student at Howard University, who plans to expand his outreach foundation. See his blog at <a href="http://www.kellibrew.blogspot.com/">http://www.kellibrew.blogspot.com/</a><br /><br />A St. Louis, Mo. native, Savage is a retired educator who has a deep passion for speaking out against domestic abuse and violence. She suffered 40 plus years of domestic abuse from a husband in the ministry. Through her personal campaign, she now testifies how God has broken her free from such bondage. She uses God’s word and her deliverance -- via writing and speaking -- to let others know that there is a way out. Her latest publication, “Looking thru the Fence: Diamonds in the Rough,” (ISBN: 978-0-9795628-1-5) is a spiritual guide, with highlights of the abuse she and her children suffered. Her other book is “A Letter to My Sisters: The way Out,” (ISBN: 978-0-9795628-0-8). Both will be available at the forum, or one may log on to <a href="http://www.savagehouse.net/">http://www.savagehouse.net/</a><br /><br />“We could not have asked for two better presenters to come and talk with our ARISE participants,” said ARISE Prevention Coordinator Lula Friar. “When we asked Mr. Kellibrew, he did not hesitate to fit us into is schedule. Evangelist Savage came highly recommended.<br /><br />ARISE is all about prevention. We don’t want our young people to get tangled in a web of domestic violence and abuse.”A program of the Community Students Learning Center (CSLC), a 501 (c) 3 organization, ARISE implements middle school and high school violence prevention programs that - explore relationships, gender roles, coercion and control – help young men and women to have more responsible, healthy relationships in middle school, high school, college and into adulthood. This project is supported under 42 U.S.C. 13971 (OVW- Rural) Department of Justice Office on Violence Against Women.<br /><br />CSLC Executive Director Beulah Greer said she hopes this forum opens the eyes of not only the youth but also adults as well, about how destructive domestic violence and abuse can become. “We want to increase awareness and seriously raise the conscientiousness of people to not let this monster literally destroy the family,” she said. “We hope the ARISE forum encourages other organizations, including churches, to put on seminars, forums and workshops to help educate us all on how to prevent domestic violence and abuse.”<br /><br />For more information on tonight’s Domestic Violence/Abuse Prevention Forum and for more information on ARISE, contact Friar or Greer at (662) 834-0905.<br /><br />To contact the featured presenters for future speaking engagements, call the William Kellibrew Foundation at (202) 271.7409 for William C. Kellibrew IV, and for Evangelist Voncele Savage, call “Help Meet,” LLC at (601) 613-0869 or fax (601) 924-0396.<br /><br />If you are a victim of domestic violence, please get help immediately! Call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (1-800-799-7233); TDD - 1-800-787-3224.Kellibrewhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18036714158800232998noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3705560531791536440.post-82302624715542926502009-10-16T15:09:00.000-04:002009-10-16T15:12:52.076-04:00Letter to Fitchburg High School Students in Fitchburg, MassachussettesFriends...<br /><br />I spoke at a high school two days ago and it changed my life forever. It was my first time speaking at a high school and I must admit I was very nervous. Speaking on domestic violence and my mother and brother's deaths in particular can be difficult, but I do it because hopefully it will inspire a student whose life either hangs on a life-line to hope or perhaps they need a boost of determination.<br /><br />October 16, 2009<br /><br />Dear Fitchburg Juniors and Seniors,<br /><br />I read all 431 of your index cards. I must admit that while I was in tears, I was also full of joy. I was truly inspired by each card that you gave to me. It showed that you wanted to get rid of so much pain, sorrow, problems, issues, heartache and despair. I am glad that on that special day you decided to make a positive turn in your life. You did not have to write anything down, but you did. Today, I am glad to share your pain, your hopes and your dreams.<br /><br />I will take these stories with me to Mississippi at the end of this month. As I told you, your stories will help me to prepare for the students in Mississippi who are facing similar problems you are facing. With your help, I will be able to help students help themselves by using their determination and hope to build upon their dreams. Thank you so much.<br /><br />Some of you are going through the toughest times of your lives. You know that I am certainly with you. I have had those dark days of despair and absolute loss of hope. It is a life-long process and I am still going through the challenges of life. However, there is a huge difference now. I know how to channel my negative energy into positive energy. I surround myself with friends who care and will not lead me down the wrong path. I know that if I just hang on my hopes and dreams will be answered. As I told you, one of you, if not all of you will have your day in the spotlight. Folks will say, “That person went to Fitchburg High School, once counted out, but now they are successful.”<br /><br />I encourage each one of you to reach out to a teacher, guidance counselor, coach, your principal and assistant principal. Find somebody you trust. They are there to lead you and guide you along the path of success. If you are having difficulty in school it is always best to let someone else know.<br /><br />Remember, you are the captain of your future. You define who you are. You determine where you will be 5, 10 or 20 years from now. Think about your future and where you would like to be. You can do anything. I believe that “success is living it”. Whatever you want to be in the future, you have to practice that right now.<br /><br />Gandhi said, “Be the change you want to see in the world.” That means that you have to start with you if there is going to be change. Once that happens, you will see the world change right before your eyes.<br /><br />I really enjoyed my time with you at Fitchburg and I promise that I will never forget you. You changed my life. I tell everyone about you, the great questions you asked and the amazing stories you gave me. <br /><br />If you wish to follow my BlogSpot, you may find me at <a href="http://www.kellibrew.blogspot.com/">www.kellibrew.blogspot.com</a>. I try to blog weekly. I wish you all success and joy as you travel the road of life.<br /><br />Sincerely,<br /><br />William Kellibrew IVKellibrewhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18036714158800232998noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3705560531791536440.post-76951205427298859452009-10-09T17:42:00.000-04:002009-10-09T17:46:40.352-04:00The Peace Prize Awakens a President - A Recommitment to PeaceFriends...<br /><br />I haven't put the president's speeches on this blog before, but this one is special. President Obama won the Nobel Peace Prize today and I am elated that he won. I like his attitude and I think that he is doing everything he can to protect our freedom and at the same time ensure that peace is prevalent across the world. Peace is special to me. It is my passion and hope for the world. Enjoy the president's speech.<br /><br />THE WHITE HOUSE<br /><br />Office of the Press Secretary<br />___________________________________________________________<br />For Immediate Release October 9, 2009<br /><br />REMARKS BY THE PRESIDENT<br />ON WINNING THE NOBEL PEACE PRIZE<br /><br />Rose Garden<br /><br />11:16 A.M. EDT<br /><br /> THE PRESIDENT: Good morning. Well, this is not how I expected to wake up this morning. After I received the news, Malia walked in and said, "Daddy, you won the Nobel Peace Prize, and it is Bo's birthday!" And then Sasha added, "Plus, we have a three-day weekend coming up." So it's good to have kids to keep things in perspective.<br /><br /> I am both surprised and deeply humbled by the decision of the Nobel Committee. Let me be clear: I do not view it as a recognition of my own accomplishments, but rather as an affirmation of American leadership on behalf of aspirations held by people in all nations. <br /><br /> To be honest, I do not feel that I deserve to be in the company of so many of the transformative figures who've been honored by this prize -- men and women who've inspired me and inspired the entire world through their courageous pursuit of peace.<br /><br /> But I also know that this prize reflects the kind of world that those men and women, and all Americans, want to build -- a world that gives life to the promise of our founding documents. And I know that throughout history, the Nobel Peace Prize has not just been used to honor specific achievement; it's also been used as a means to give momentum to a set of causes. And that is why I will accept this award as a call to action -- a call for all nations to confront the common challenges of the 21st century.<br /> <br />These challenges can't be met by any one leader or any one nation. And that's why my administration has worked to establish a new era of engagement in which all nations must take responsibility for the world we seek. We cannot tolerate a world in which nuclear weapons spread to more nations and in which the terror of a nuclear holocaust endangers more people. And that's why we've begun to take concrete steps to pursue a world without nuclear weapons, because all nations have the right to pursue peaceful nuclear power, but all nations have the responsibility to demonstrate their peaceful intentions.<br /><br />We cannot accept the growing threat posed by climate change, which could forever damage the world that we pass on to our children -- sowing conflict and famine; destroying coastlines and emptying cities. And that's why all nations must now accept their share of responsibility for transforming the way that we use energy.<br /><br />We can't allow the differences between peoples to define the way that we see one another, and that's why we must pursue a new beginning among people of different faiths and races and religions; one based upon mutual interest and mutual respect.<br /><br />And we must all do our part to resolve those conflicts that have caused so much pain and hardship over so many years, and that effort must include an unwavering commitment that finally realizes that the rights of all Israelis and Palestinians to live in peace and security in nations of their own.<br /><br />We can't accept a world in which more people are denied opportunity and dignity that all people yearn for -- the ability to get an education and make a decent living; the security that you won't have to live in fear of disease or violence without hope for the future.<br /><br /> And even as we strive to seek a world in which conflicts are resolved peacefully and prosperity is widely shared, we have to confront the world as we know it today. I am the Commander-in-Chief of a country that's responsible for ending a war and working in another theater to confront a ruthless adversary that directly threatens the American people and our allies. I'm also aware that we are dealing with the impact of a global economic crisis that has left millions of Americans looking for work. These are concerns that I confront every day on behalf of the American people. <br /><br /> Some of the work confronting us will not be completed during my presidency. Some, like the elimination of nuclear weapons, may not be completed in my lifetime. But I know these challenges can be met so long as it's recognized that they will not be met by one person or one nation alone. This award is not simply about the efforts of my administration -- it's about the courageous efforts of people around the world. <br /><br /> And that's why this award must be shared with everyone who strives for justice and dignity -- for the young woman who marches silently in the streets on behalf of her right to be heard even in the face of beatings and bullets; for the leader imprisoned in her own home because she refuses to abandon her commitment to democracy; for the soldier who sacrificed through tour after tour of duty on behalf of someone half a world away; and for all those men and women across the world who sacrifice their safety and their freedom and sometime their lives for the cause of peace. <br /><br /> That has always been the cause of America. That's why the world has always looked to America. And that's why I believe America will continue to lead.<br /><br /> Thank you very much.<br /><br /> END 11:22 A.M. EDTKellibrewhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18036714158800232998noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3705560531791536440.post-40474954732584735752009-10-06T00:20:00.000-04:002009-10-06T00:39:44.838-04:00Edwards' Resolution Honoring the Lives of Homicide Victims Passes the HouseCongresswoman Donna F. Edwards’<br />Resolution Honoring the Lives of Homicide Victims Passes in the House of Representatives<br /><br />09/30/09<br /><br />FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE<br /><br />September 30, 2009<br /><br />Washington, D.C. – The House of Representatives passed a resolution introduced by Congresswoman Donna F. Edwards (D-MD), and cosponsored by Rep. Ted Poe (R-TX), supporting the goals and ideals of a National Day of Remembrance for Homicide Victims, which was commemorated on September 25, 2009. In recognizing all homicide victims and their families, Rep. Edwards wanted to bring particular attention to the unacceptable number of victims of intimate partner violence.<br /><br />“We are witnessing an epidemic of homicide in this country and it must be addressed,” said Rep. Edwards. “The goals of this resolution are to honor the lives of all homicide victims, including those who died as a result of intimate partner violence. I thank my colleague and dear friend, Rep. Ted Poe (R-TX), to make this a bipartisan resolution, and hope that it will raise awareness about how serious and widespread the issues of homicide and domestic violence are in America.”<br /><br />At least forty-eight Maryland women and children lost their lives as a result of intimate partner homicide in one year from July, 2007 to June, 2008. Nationally, three women per day are murdered by their former or current husbands and partners, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. From 1976 to 2005, approximately 64.8% of all female homicide victims during that time were murdered by an intimate partner. Intimate partner homicide remains the second leading cause of traumatic death for pregnant women in America.<br /><br />“Congresswoman Edwards is an unwavering voice for the victims of intimate partner violence,” said Sue Else, president of the National Network to End Domestic Violence. “We join her in honoring and remembering so many who lost their lives to a spouse or partner. We commend Congresswomen Edwards for continuing to shed light on the pervasiveness and severity of domestic violence in America.”<br /><br />Brandon Wallace, CEO and Executive Director of the William Kellibrew Foundation added, “William Kellibrew stood helplessly at the age of 10 as he watched his mother and brother gunned down by her estranged boyfriend before looking down the barrel of the gun himself. Intimate partner homicide cannot continue to rip families apart. We must support the legislation being introduced by Congresswoman Edwards and Congressman Poe to prevent further loss of innocent lives.”<br /><br />The following organizations endorse the resolution: Legal Momentum, the National Network to End Domestic Violence (NNEDV), the Family Violence Prevention Fund, the National Partnership for Women and Families, the William Kellibrew Foundation, and the Maryland Network Against Domestic Violence (MNADV).<br /><br />###Kellibrewhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18036714158800232998noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3705560531791536440.post-66350693402710423782009-09-18T18:58:00.001-04:002009-09-18T19:13:09.495-04:00Survivor Connecting with a Victim Turned SurvivorWow, that's all I have to say tonight.<br /><br />Hello friends,<br /><br />It has been an interesting day. It was long, but productive. First, I spent the day with one of my <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_0">mentees</span>, a twelve year old, who was a witness to his mother's death. I got a chance to see the resilience in him. I got a chance to witness what it must have been like for me at his age when I lost my mom and brother to domestic violence.<br /><br />He is smart and very aware of what happened on that horrible day when he lost him mom to point blank range shots from a former boyfriend. He understands that it was an absolutely bad thing to go through and he recognizes that it is from jealousy. But, really? Is it just jealousy? Children are more astute than we think they are. He is connecting this jealousy to his mom's death in which I agree. But, there is something more horrible than that at hand. His mom's killer did not value human life at all for that moment in time. More importantly, he did not value himself.<br /><br />A great deal of caring about others' lives is caring about your own life. My mom's killer had been in prison for over ten years for murder and when he was released he met my mother. He fell back into his same patterns of abuse toward women and tried to control my mother. He was not happy with himself at all. Taking my mom and brother's life was truly him hating himself.<br /><br />I knew when I heard my <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_1">mentee's</span> story, I had a lot of work to do. I had to prepare to sacrifice my time, energy and effort to help him back to recovery. I also mentor his 19 year old brother. They both are suffering from a tremendous loss. Now, they grapple with the murder, but they have so much resolve. I am proud of them today. By taking a stand to live life in a decent way, they are standing up against this violence. I could not help but be a resource to them. That's why I am helping them to develop their passion.<br /><br />I challenge you today to reach out to somebody. Encourage them. Show them that there are alternatives to negative behaviour and that there is love in all of us. Some person out there is begging for help without saying a word. Words escape them because they have lost all hope. I know. I have been there. Reach out. Put your hand out there for them to grab. It makes all the difference in the world.<br /><br />Today, I saw my young <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_2">mentee</span> as a survivor. He once was controlled by his killer and now he is defining himself. <br /><br />Keep up the good work my friend. I share your pain and I share your tragedy. Today, I share your hope.<br /><br />Til next time.Kellibrewhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18036714158800232998noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3705560531791536440.post-20861321230316973072009-08-29T16:37:00.000-04:002009-08-31T00:32:58.664-04:00Innocence Torn Away: In Search of a Child Molester after 30 YearsDear Friends...<br /><br />As I looked at the news and saw a 29 year old Jaycee Lee <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_0" class="blsp-spelling-error">Dugard</span> rescued I could not help but share her pain. 1991, Jaycee was kidnapped at 11 years old and held captive until 29 years old. She was <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_1" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">repetitively</span> raped and had two children by her captor. Her family was devastated and I can only imagine what poor Jaycee was going through being pulled from everything she knew. While her story shocks me and has brought me to tears since her story aired, Jaycee's story has inspired me with vigor and determination to save children and to deal with my own situation.<br /><br />When I was six years old, I was violently raped and molested by my mom's friend and neighbor. We lived in a complex named Dodge View in <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_2" class="blsp-spelling-error">Landover</span>, Maryland. I felt hopeless all of these years, but today, I feel that he should be found and stopped from ever doing this again.<br /><br />Today starts my search for this man who ripped through my soul and innocence at six. I was damaged for life. "Jose" was a good friend of my mom's and befriended me. He offered to fix my bicycle and instead of first fixing my bike, he pulled down my clothes, rubbed lotion all over my body and raped me at six. I never told my mother before she died. When she died I was ten. So, whatever hope of finding him and bringing him to justice was out of the question at that time. This hopelessness has stuck with me for an eternity, until today.<br /><br />I am going to work to locate him and work to make sure that he can not harm another child. I can only imagine how many other children feel prey to his coercion and manipulation in order to rip their souls away.<br /><br />Where do I start? Well, I am going to start with the Prince George's County Police Department. I have contacted the Deputy Chief of Police for another reason, but I am going to add this conversation in the mix. Next, I am going to search for information on the apartment complex back then, ask for their records and try to locate this man. I have so many things to say to him.<br /><br />Whether he is prosecuted or convicted, my only solace comes in him knowing how he damaged me and how he took my <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_3" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">innocence</span> from me and to know I just might be able to save another child.<br /><br />I remember that day like it was yesterday. I bled and bled that day. My dad never knew, my mom never knew and my brothers and sister never knew. I revealed this at 14. By that time, as I mentioned, mom was dead. So, I was devastated during my teenage years having to deal with this nearly alone.<br /><br />If you are out there and you feel like I do; stand up for yourself. Let's put people like this where they belong. There are many children who do not speak up. We have to break the silence and bring criminals like this to justice.<br /><br />Let's take a look at some statistics on child molesters. You will find this troubling, but today I have more resolve than ever. Somewhere in a small corner, a backyard, compound, dark closet, hut, dwelling, is a small child suffering a terrible fate. My heart is heavy for them and my determination has taken over.<br /><br /><strong>Child Molester Statistics</strong><br /><br />This excerpt is taken from <a href="http://www.yellodyno.com/html/child_molester_stats.html">http://www.yellodyno.com/html/child_molester_stats.html</a>, <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_4" class="blsp-spelling-error">Yello</span> <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_5" class="blsp-spelling-error">Dyno</span>, Protecting Children From Child <span style="BACKGROUND-COLOR: #ffff00">Molestors</span><br /><br />"The serial killer has the same personality characteristics as the sex offender against children"-Dr. Mace Knapp, Nevada State Prison Psychologist.• "There are 400,000 registered sex offenders in the United States, and an estimated 80 to 100,000 of them are missing. They're supposed to be registered, but we don't know where they are and we don't know where they're living.- Ernie Allen, President of the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children to co-anchor Hannah Storm on The Early Show<br /><br />• The most serious and chronic offenders often show signs of antisocial behavior as early as the preschool years.- (American Psychiatric Association, 1994) (was in Juvenile Justice Bulletin: Nov 1998 <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_7" class="blsp-spelling-error">OJJDP</span>: U.S. Department of Justice)• Dr. Gene Abel estimates that between 1% and 5% of our population molest children -CNN Specials Transcript #454-Thieves of Childhood.<br /><br />• Nearly all the offenders in sexual assaults reported to law enforcement were male (96%).- Sexual Assault of Young Children as Reported to Law Enforcement, 7/00, <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_8" class="blsp-spelling-error">NCJ</span> 182990, U.S. Department of Justice<br /><br />• Overall, 23% of sexual assault offenders were under 18 and 77% were adults - Sexual Assault of Young Children as Reported to Law Enforcement,7/00, <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_9" class="blsp-spelling-error">NCJ</span> 182990, U.S. Department of Justice<br /><br />• 40% of the offenders of victims under age 6 were themselves juveniles. A similar proportion (39%) of offenders of victims ages 6 through 11 were also juveniles. For older juvenile victims, the proportion of juvenile offenders dropped to 27%.- Sexual Assault of Young Children as Reported to Law Enforcement,7/00, <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_10" class="blsp-spelling-error">NCJ</span> 182990, U.S. Department of Justice<br /><br />•Adults were the offender in 60% of the sexual assaults of youth under age 12. Rarely were the offenders of young victims strangers. Strangers were the offender in just 3% of sexual assaults against victims under age 6 and 5% of the sexual assault of <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_11" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">victimization</span> of youth ages 6 through 11.-Sexual Assault of Young Children as Reported to Law Enforcement,7/00, <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_12" class="blsp-spelling-error">NCJ</span> 182990, U.S. Department of Justice<br /><br />• 1 in 5 violent offenders serving time in a state prison reported having victimized a child.-<span id="SPELLING_ERROR_13" class="blsp-spelling-error">BJS</span> Survey of State Prison Inmates, 1991.<br /><br />• 2/3 of all prisoners convicted of rape or sexual assault had committed their crime against a child.-<span id="SPELLING_ERROR_14" class="blsp-spelling-error">BJS</span> Survey of State Prison Inmates, 1991.<br /><br />• Acquaintance perpetrators are the most common abusers, constituting approximately 70-90% of all reported perpetrators.-<span id="SPELLING_ERROR_15" class="blsp-spelling-error">Finkelhor</span>, D. 1994.<br /><br />• 89% of child sexual assault cases involve persons known to the child, such as a caretaker or family acquaintance.-Diana Russell Survey, 1978<br /><br />• 29% of child sexual abuse offenders are relatives, 60% are acquaintances, and only 11% are strangers.-Diana Russell, The Secret Trauma, NY:Basic Books, 1986.<br /><br />• For the vast majority of child <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_16" class="blsp-spelling-error">victimizers</span> in State prison, the victim was someone they knew before the crime. 1/3 had committed their crime against their own child, about 1/2 had a relationship with the victim as a friend, acquaintance, or relative other than offspring, about 1 in 7 reported the victim to have been a stranger to them.-<span id="SPELLING_ERROR_17" class="blsp-spelling-error">BJS</span> Survey of State Prison Inmates, 1991.<br /><br />• 3/4 of the violent <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_18" class="blsp-spelling-error">victimizations</span> of children took place in either the victim's home or the offenders home.-<span id="SPELLING_ERROR_19" class="blsp-spelling-error">BJS</span> Survey of State Prison Inmates, 1991.<br /><br />• Males are reported to be the abusers in 80-95% of cases-<span id="SPELLING_ERROR_20" class="blsp-spelling-error">Thoringer</span>, D., <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_21" class="blsp-spelling-error">et</span> <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_22" class="blsp-spelling-error">al</span>., 1988.<br /><br />• About 60% of the male survivors sampled report at least one of their perpetrators to be female.-Mendel, 1993.<br /><br />• All but 3% of offenders who committed violent crimes against children were male.-<span id="SPELLING_ERROR_23" class="blsp-spelling-error">BJS</span> Survey of State Prison Inmates, 1991.<br /><br />•The typical offender is male, begins molesting by age 15, engages in a variety of deviant behavior, and molests an average of 117 youngsters, most of whom do not report the offense.-Dr. Gene Abel in a National Institute of Mental Health Study.<br /><br />• Offenders who had victimized a child were on average 5 years older than the violent offenders who had committed their crimes against adults. Nearly 25% of child <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_24" class="blsp-spelling-error">victimizers</span> were age 40 or older, but about 10% of the inmates with adult victims fell in that range.-<span id="SPELLING_ERROR_25" class="blsp-spelling-error">BJS</span> Survey of State Prison Inmates, 1991.<br /><br />• 71% of male offenders are under the age of 35.-Dr. Ann <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_26" class="blsp-spelling-error">Burges</span>, Dr. Nicholas <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_27" class="blsp-spelling-error">Groth</span>, <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_28" class="blsp-spelling-error">et</span> <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_29" class="blsp-spelling-error">al</span>. in a study of imprisoned offenders.<br /><br />• 3/4 of sexual predators are younger than 35. About 80% are of normal intelligence or above.-Profiles from the FBI Academy and the National Center for Missing & Exploited Children.<br /><br />• Though officially, not considered abuse, the highest incidence of incest occurs among siblings.-Waterman & <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_30" class="blsp-spelling-error">Lusk</span>, 1986.<br /><br />• Many clinical settings currently are witnessing a dramatic increase in the number of adolescent offenders who have committed sexually aggressive acts against other children.-<span id="SPELLING_ERROR_31" class="blsp-spelling-error">Conte</span>, Jon R., 1986.<br /><br />• While nearly 70% of those serving time for violent crimes against children were white, whites accounted for 40% of those imprisoned for violent crimes against adults.-<span id="SPELLING_ERROR_32" class="blsp-spelling-error">BJS</span> Survey of State Prison Inmates, 1991.<br /><br />• Inmates who victimized children were less likely than other inmates to have a prior criminal record-nearly 1/3 of child <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_33" class="blsp-spelling-error">victimizers</span> had never been arrested prior to the current offense, compared to less than 20% of those who victimized adults.--<span id="SPELLING_ERROR_34" class="blsp-spelling-error">BJS</span> Survey of State Prison Inmates, 1991.<br /><br />• Violent child <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_35" class="blsp-spelling-error">victimizers</span> were substantially more likely than those with adult victims to have been physically or sexually abused when they were children..-<span id="SPELLING_ERROR_36" class="blsp-spelling-error">BJS</span> Survey of State Prison Inmates, 1991.<br /><br />• 50% of reported child molestations involve the use of physical force and child molesters produce as much visible physical injury as rapists-39% of victims.-Dr. Gene Abel in a National Institute of Mental Health Study.<br /><br />• About 14% of child <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_37" class="blsp-spelling-error">victimizers</span> carried a weapon during the violent crime, compared to nearly 1/2 of those who victimized adults.-<span id="SPELLING_ERROR_38" class="blsp-spelling-error">BJS</span> Survey of State Prison Inmates, 1991.<br /><br />• About 10% of violent offenders with child victims received life or death sentences and the average prison term was 11 years, somewhat shorter average sentences than received by those with adult victims.-<span id="SPELLING_ERROR_39" class="blsp-spelling-error">BJS</span> Survey of State Prison Inmates, 1991.<br /><br />• More than 1/2 of all convicted sex offenders are sent back to prison within a year. Within 2 years, 77.9% are back.-California Department of Corrections.<br /><br />• Recidivism rates range from 18-45%. The more violent the crime the more likelihood of repeating.-Studies by the state of Washington.<br /><br />• 3 in 10 child <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_40" class="blsp-spelling-error">victimizers</span> reported that they had committed their crimes against multiple victims: they were more likely than those who victimized adults to have had multiple victims.-<span id="SPELLING_ERROR_41" class="blsp-spelling-error">BJS</span> Survey of State Prison Inmates, 1991.<br /><br />• Like rape, child molestation is one of the most <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_42" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">under reported</span> crimes: only 1-10% are ever disclosed.-FBI Law Enforcement Bulletin.<br /><br />• The behavior is highly repetitive, to the point of compulsion, rather than resulting from a lack of judgment.-Dr. Ann <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_43" class="blsp-spelling-error">Burges</span>, Dr. Nicholas <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_44" class="blsp-spelling-error">Groth</span>, <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_45" class="blsp-spelling-error">et</span> <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_46" class="blsp-spelling-error">al</span>. in a study of imprisoned offenders<br /><br />These statistics are horrible and show that there has to be more education in our homes, schools and community. Keep you eyes and ears to the ground. Check your children out. Ensure that you have great communication between you and your children. Let's save a life.<br /><br />Til next time...Kellibrewhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18036714158800232998noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3705560531791536440.post-83961650726868021482009-07-28T00:20:00.000-04:002009-07-28T13:16:30.227-04:00Resilience: What does it look like?Hello Readers...<br /><br />Today, I received a phone call from a reporter from the Philadelphia Inquire Daily News in Pennsylvania. She told me about a murder in Pennsylvania. A woman was murdered by her <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_0">ex boyfriend</span> while her children watched.<br /><br />I was simply mortified when I received the news. I told her that my heart goes out to the victims, especially the children who watched. I prayed for their safety.<br /><br />I was walking my <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_1">mentee</span> to the bus stop in order for him to get home when I heard the news. He too like these children lost his mom to domestic violence. His mother was murdered just two weeks ago as his twelve year-old brother watched. He survived a near <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_2">strangulation</span> by the killer and was able to get to the neighbors for help.<br /><br />The reporter asked me what are the children feeling and going through right now. I told her the children's lives have been ripped from them. These children are terrified and absolutely lost and confused. There are no words to describe what happened today. There are no comforting feelings. It is a <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_3">frightening</span> world right now.<br /><br />But like me, I too was lost. I had the same feelings losing my mother and brother. Although I was happy to be alive I felt like I was made to part with her and my brother. I left my childhood right there in the room where my mother and brother died right before my eyes. It was a massacre.<br /><br />What I teach my new <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_4">mentees</span> is that there is a better day ahead for them. I teach them to cope, I show them love and patience and I validate their experience and feelings. I care. I understand how difficult this could be for them. If they were anything like me, they are devastated and empty and quite worthless. I have been there.<br /><br />I have been to a place so far I did not think I was going to get a chance to ever come back. I made it this far though. I held on to a little hope. Somebody reached out to me. My grandmother saved us. She saved my brothers, sister and me.<br /><br />These children need immediate help and stability. They are unstable and need comforting, but many children feel like they have been separated from security. I was too. I only had the clothes on my back when I was allowed to leave that house. It was terrifying.<br /><br />Our struggles go on and our souls continue to fight. This world is full of violence and it doesn't seem like there is relief in sight. It may look like it makes no sense, but what does make sense is having those around you who love you and help to give you hope. That makes sense. These young men pressing on with their lives makes sense.<br /><br />To my <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_5">mentees</span> and to all of the wonderful team players who work on behalf of victims...thank you.<br /><br />That's what resilience looks like. Despair answered by hope is the answer.<br /><br />Til next time...Kellibrewhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18036714158800232998noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3705560531791536440.post-65064078144931698952009-07-07T18:53:00.000-04:002009-07-07T19:11:37.537-04:00Tribute to Michael JacksonMy friends,<div><br /></div><div>I must be very honest about the influence Michael Jackson had on my life and my art. Growing up, I listened and danced to MJ's songs and videos anytime I heard it. My mother would encourage me to get in front of all the family and perform. Before then, I did not have any idea that I could sing. At least I cannot remember. Michael will be forever missed by me and countless friends I know. Many may believe that his legacy is mixed, but Michael was only convicted of being a true humanitarian. It is unfortunate that he had to travel down such a hurtful and difficult road, but he made it through to receive such a fitting tribute today by his family, friends and fans.</div><div><br /></div><div>I was quite mixed during his trial and previous allegations of child molestation, but who am I to judge? I thought long and hard about it and I settled on the fact that Michael was never convicted of these allegations and after all, who would want to subject themselves to an embarrassing trial? I respect Michael and his contribution to this world truly deserves more than what we gave him. We all live in glass houses and when we least expect it, we are constantly put on trial ourselves. What do we expect from others when that happens? A little mercy and understanding goes a long way.</div><div><br /></div><div>My prayers go out to his children, family and countless people who knew and loved him. I wish only the best for Michael's soul as it travels to endless places such as that great place we all can only contemplate -- a heaven. </div><div><br /></div><div>R.I.P. Michael. Many blessings. Thank you for your contribution.</div><div><br /></div><div>Til next time...</div>Kellibrewhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18036714158800232998noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3705560531791536440.post-15854913687701400862009-06-26T03:02:00.000-04:002009-06-26T03:13:59.896-04:00Two Young Men Survive Through the Ultimate TragedyReaders...<div><br /></div><div>I had a moving conversation with a family today that had me in absolute tears. My heart is so heavy having connected to this family.</div><div><br /></div><div>The story...</div><div><br /></div><div>Two young men, 15 and 17, awakened to the sound of a phone ringing, a mobile phone that they shared that their mother had provided for them. They missed the phone call and had to listen to the voicemail. What they heard would be the most tragic thing they ever heard in their lives.</div><div><br /></div><div>Their father left a message telling them that he had killed their mother and that he was going to kill himself. He wished them a good life, then killing himself. </div><div><br /></div><div>The children confirmed the death of their mother from their visit to the murder site. It was devastating.</div><div><br /></div><div>Today, they were able to tell me their story over the phone. I listened as they told me the difficult story of their mother's death. I told them my story. Their uncle listening intently, all the while, giving all of us support.</div><div><br /></div><div>I was so inspired by their resilience today. They were so strong to discuss the murder today. </div><div><br /></div><div>I simply wanted to reach out my hand and give them so much support for their loss. If people who murdered only knew how much they were impacting others' lives, they would not kill.</div><div><br /></div><div>These young men are scarred for life. But, I told them that together we will get through this. </div><div><br /></div><div>Not to mention, their uncle and aunt also lost a son. He was also killed. </div><div><br /></div><div>There is so much work to do. It starts now. I encourage you to be strong out there and make sure that you have a plan for leaving your relationship. Safety is the key. Both my mother and these young men's mother did not have the proper tools in order to make a decision to leave. </div><div><br /></div><div>For a safety plan, go to www.afterthetrauma.com. Mildred Muhammed has a book that you can buy that has a plan in it. I am developing my own book and safety plan as well. It is imperative that we provide others with tools to strengthen and rebuild their lives.</div><div><br /></div><div>Thanks for your energy and time.</div><div><br /></div><div>Til next time...</div>Kellibrewhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18036714158800232998noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3705560531791536440.post-61063714906415424212009-06-17T13:08:00.000-04:002009-06-24T18:11:09.871-04:00What I Am Up To -- Changing the World By Changing MeIt's been a while since I blogged and it's been quite busy for me lately. There are so many opportunties and events to attend. Working diligently on behalf of several causes is exciting. There was one time in my life when I could not even see straight. I could not envision my life taking shape and being positive. So, I am grateful for this day. This is a day when I can rejoice and be glad that I have an opportunity for another chance to make a difference in life. Have you made that choice? What is your choice today? Are you in a dilemma that precludes you from making a positive choice in life? Well, it is time to make a decision to be strong, have courage to reach deep inside of you -- pulling that survival instinct out and going for it. And, that's what I have been doing lately. I am involved in many positive projects and I value my work. I know that it is tough, but we must reach out for help if we feel stressed and motivate ourselves.<br /><br />Next week, I address a room full of practitioners and professionals in the area of victims assistance. Over 500 folks will be listening to me tell my story of tragedy. They will listen to what happened and what did I do to turn things around. What tools did I use? Who helped me? I am excited about giving this group tools that they can use in order to help rebuild lives in their communities and on their jobs. That's what life is all about. Being there for others is key.<br /><br />Thanks to the National Center for Victims of Crime and to the Office for Victims of Crime within the Department of Justice, Justice Programs for allowing me to be a small part of the effort to educate and learn from professionals for the benefit of victims who are suffering as we speak.<br /><br />Til next time...Kellibrewhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18036714158800232998noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3705560531791536440.post-54301947621858055532009-05-22T01:55:00.000-04:002009-05-22T02:15:01.675-04:00Violence in Chicago finds a Another CombatantHello Readers...<br /><br />Last evening I addressed an amazing group of people for a great cause. Alderman/Committeeman Sandi Jackson and 7th Ward Independent Political Organization hosted a benefit to Stop the Violence. The program was held at The Park At Fourteenth on 14th Street, N.W., downtown D.C.<br /><br />Anwan "Big G" Glover of HBO's The Wire, began the program with a welcome and introduction of Bonita Parker, Chief of Staff for Alderman Sandi Jackson. Following was a blissful and beautiful rendition of Lift Ev'ry Voice and Sing by Jessica Gabrielle Chambliss. <br /><br />Then, I spoke. My message was rooted in bringing attention to violence and the impact that violence has on victims and survivors. I asked those in attendance to ensure that they reached out to those in need. <br /><br />Kouri Marshall, A. Scott Bolden, Ronald Moten and Jauhar Abraham all made touching and heartfelt speeches. Peaceoholics, Moten and Abraham acknowledged graduates who were once a part of their program to engage and educate youth. <br /><br />Alderman Jackson made a riveting speech. She held everyone accountable to being involved in the community and making a difference. <br /><br />Lastly, Rachel Crouch and Charles Jean-Pierre presented paitings to Alderman Jackson. <br /><br />The event turned out to be a great event to benefit victims of violence in Chicago. <br /><br />Let's continue to be vigilant in our efforts to end violence in our communities. It takes us working together and taking responsibility for our community in order to make a difference.<br /><br />Til next time...Kellibrewhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18036714158800232998noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3705560531791536440.post-55510688309508159012009-05-18T18:16:00.000-04:002009-05-18T19:26:56.867-04:00Praises for a Young Activist - Ronnie Mosley (Chicago)Good day Readers:<br /><br />I just read a story about a young man who is making a difference in Chicago. He is 17 year Ronnie Mosley who lives in Chicago. Ronnie lost his best friend to gun violence two years ago and has been an advocate against gun violence ever since. I am truly inspired by his fight and applaud his efforts to rally his colleagues in school and in the community to stop accepting violence in his community.<br /><br />This is what eliminating violence is all about. It is within us to combat this conundrum. We have to support and develop comprehensive strategies and ways to deal with violence instead of relegating it to the authorities. We must work together as a community to bring attention and awareness to the issue. Only then will we be able to own up to our responsibilitiy of protecting our community.<br /><br />We need more Ronnie Mosleys to speak out and express dismay with our fellow citizens. We will not and cannot accept the violence.<br /><br />I simply had to say what was on my mind tonight. I felt compelled to make a statement supporting Ronnie and what he is doing in Chicago. <br /><br />Additionally, I wanted to make everyone aware that I am speaking on Thursday evening at 6:30 p.m. Alderman Sandy Jackson's event in Washington, D.C. The event is at 1301 K Street, N.W., Washington, D.C. Alderman Jackson will be addressing the violence in our community and communities throughout the country.Kellibrewhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18036714158800232998noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3705560531791536440.post-6397830552930306532009-04-21T08:28:00.000-04:002009-04-21T08:34:25.269-04:00National Crime Victims' Rights WeekEach April since 1981, the Office of Victims of Services (OVS) has helped lead communities throughout the country in their observances of National Crime Victims’ Rights Week (NCVRW). Rallies, candlelight vigils, and a host of commemorative activities are held each year to promote victims' rights and to honor crime victims and those who advocate on their behalf (please view last year’s video).<br /><br /><a title="http://ovc.ncjrs.gov/ncvrw2008/themedvd.html" href="http://ovc.ncjrs.gov/ncvrw2008/themedvd.html" target="_blank" rel="nofollow">National Crime Victims' Rights Week, April 19-24, 2008. Justice for Victims. Justice for All.</a><br /><br />This year, Kenny Barnes, Sr. has been nominated by the United States Department of Justice Office for Victims of Crime - to receive the National Service Award for work being done on behalf of victims of crime.<br /><br /><div align="left">Kenny wishes to extend an invitation to you, family, friends, or if you know of anyone who has been victimized by crime to participate in the events during National Crime Victims’ Rights Week, and to be sure and attend the Awards Ceremony.<br /> <br /> <a title="http://www.ncvrw.org/" href="http://www.ncvrw.org/" target="_blank" rel="nofollow">National Observance & Candlelight Ceremony </a><br /> Thursday April 23rd 6:30pm - 7:30pm<br /> The US Chamber of Commerce<br />1615 H Street, NWWashington, DC <br /> <br /><a title="http://www.ncvrw.org/" href="http://www.ncvrw.org/" target="_blank" rel="nofollow">National Crime Victims’ Rights Week Awards Ceremony</a><br /> Friday April 24th 1:30pm – 3:30pm<br />Andrew W. Mellon Auditorium1301 Constitution Avenue, NWWashington, DC<br />A number of my friends have decided to hold a reception after the Awards Ceremony this Friday on the rooftop of The Ellington, with its beautiful view overlooking the city. From my understanding there will be Middle Eastern Cuisine, beverages, entertainment, and hosted by a very special friend from Hollywood California - Omarosa Manigault-Stallworth, The Apprentice and now the Celebrity Apprentice with Donald Trump - <a title="http://www.omarosa.com/" href="http://www.omarosa.com/" target="_blank" rel="nofollow">Omarosa Official Website</a> – and assisted by the Lady Angels Marketing Team - <a title="http://www.partywiththeangels.com/" href="http://www.partywiththeangels.com/" target="_blank" rel="nofollow">Welcome to PartyWithTheAngels.com - Home of the Lady Angels Marketing Team!</a><br /><br />Please join us and help in our efforts to continue our campaign to reduce violence and gun violence during these difficult economic times.<br /><br />The Steering Committee is chaired by Ms. Guileine F. Kraft, a Doctoral Candidate at The National Catholic School of Social Service of The Catholic University of America and the invitation is attached for your review and RSVP.</div><div align="left"> </div><div align="left">For more information or to contribute contact Guileine Kraft at <a href="mailto:guikraft@yahoo.com">guikraft@yahoo.com</a></div><div align="left"> </div><div align="left">Til next time...<br /> </div>Kellibrewhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18036714158800232998noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3705560531791536440.post-51347466804283177662009-04-10T13:35:00.000-04:002009-04-10T13:38:33.983-04:00Mildred Muhammad hosts Support Group for VictimsHappy Easter, Happy Spring, Happy Happy Everything. <br /><br />I have a wonderful and special message from my friend Mildred Muhammad, the ex-wife of the convicted sniper, John Allen Muhammad.<br /><br />Please pass along...<br /><br />After The Trauma will begin a support group for victims and survivors of domestic violence, beginning April 18, 2009. The support group will be held from 2:00pm ~ 4:00pm at 5625 Allentown Road, Suite 200, Camp Springs, MD 20746. Light refreshments will be served.<br /><br />The phone number has changed as well. The office number is 240-695-5911 and the fax number is 240-965-1887. Please make a note of it.<br /><br />Thank you for your support...<br /><br />Sincerely,<br /><br />Mildred D. Muhammad<br />Executive Director,<br />After The Trauma, Inc.<br /><a href="http://www.afterthetrauma.org/" target="_blank" rel="nofollow">www.afterthetrauma.org</a><br /><br />Til next time...Kellibrewhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18036714158800232998noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3705560531791536440.post-47902727531082674882009-04-07T13:31:00.000-04:002009-04-07T13:33:18.765-04:00U.S. Massacres Concerns Violence SurvivorsPRESS RELEASE<br />For Immediate Release<br />Contact: Brandon Wallace 202.271.7409<br />Email: <a href="mailto:wallace.motley@gmail.com">wallace.motley@gmail.com</a><br />April 4, 2009<br /><br />Motley Management LLC.<br />Make Moves, Make Memories, Make a Difference.<br /><br />VIOLENCE SURVIVORS UNITE TO SUPPORT VICTIMS OF THE BINGHAMTON, NY AMERICAN CIVIC ASSOCIATION AND PITTSBURGH, PA MASSACRES<br /><br />The William Kellibrew Foundation and ROOT Inc. (Reaching Out to Others Together), on behalf of all victims of crime nation-wide, would like to send condolences to the people of Binghamton, New York and Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania.<br /><br />The gruesome killing of thirteen innocent victims and critical wounding of four others in this New York center where immigrants were taking their U.S. citizenship examinations is incomprehensible. The brutal murder of immigrants beholden to the idea of living the American dream and actively participating to the fullest in that journey makes plain the notion that no one is immune to violence. The fatal shootings of three Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania police officers in the line of duty on a domestic violence call is tragic.<br /><br />William Kellibrew IV, National Coordinator for Black Youth Vote for the National Coalition on Black Civic Participation said, “These senseless acts of violence take a toll on our community, but with resolve, we can work to ensure that victims receive adequate attention to get through these tough times.”<br /><br /><div align="left">Kenneth E. Barnes, Sr., MS, founder and CEO of ROOT Inc, an organization committed to helping communities take a proactive approach to reducing gun violence, stated, "Deplorable assaults on our safety are taking place far too often in America. We must work steadfastly to ensure the eventual cessation of these preventable, unspeakable crimes."<br /><br />These are immensely challenging atrocities having overwhelming ramifications that resonate through devastated communities. Violence can occur in homes, businesses, civic associations and even religious institutions. In just three weeks, violent episodes amplified by gun usage in Alabama, North Carolina, New York and Pennsylvania have left<br />34 people dead and the lives of many others traumatically altered forever.<br /><br />A stronger more steadfast commitment to the prevention of crime through parole regulations, offender rehabilitation and violence prevention education is critical to bringing an end to the senseless violence that plagues all Americans and citizens around the world. We stand in unity and in full support of the people of Binghamton, New York and Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania, but specifically for the family members who lost loved ones in these horrific tragedies.<br /># # #</div>Kellibrewhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18036714158800232998noreply@blogger.com0